Love and Relationships

Lately, I have had a lot of conversations with different individuals regarding love and relationships. Mostly the underlying theme tends to be forgiveness,trust and vulnerability.

I think that the most important thing that individuals need to realize is that the person you are in a relationship with is HUMAN! They are not perfect and never will be. They will do things to piss you off and hurt you, but they can also bring you joy and laughter into your life. We must learn to be... Vulnerable.. Now say it with me... V-U-L-N-E-R-A-B-L-E. We stay so guarded and the first time someone does something to us that we feel is disrespectful or mean, we lash out to hurt them. Didn't your momma teach you 2 wrongs don't make a right? I know my momma did for me.

Relationships are work if you want them to become something more, or to obtain greatness. Sometimes you have to be humble and swallow that pride. You have to be willing to give of yourself without any expectations of anything else in return. That is real love. Isn't that what Jesus did for us on the Cross, he loved us by dieing for us without the expectation of anything back.

I know.. I know.. you are going to tell me that is hard to do. Sure it is, but nothing worth having was easy to achieve. We as americans look for that instant gratification, especially the generation that was born in the technology error with with a push of a button you can summon your friend to talk to you.

Okay.. Okay.. one more thing and I will get off my soap box. Women, Young ladies.. Please Please stop having all these so called "friends". They aren't really your friends like your girls, no you know who I am talking about. These guys you talk to all the time on the phone, who take you out to dinner, you may even venture to go to there house, who knows what you do when you get there, but he's not your man, he's just your "friend". What is that? Give it a rest, stopping spreading yourself all over in these casual relationships that are not going anywhere.